4 Apr 2025

4.04.2025 Nothing can [ever] be undone.

 ~o~

  Friday 4th 36F/2C [7.15] Another sunny day is promised. Reaching just over 13C/57F after lunch.

  Up at 6.20 after a quiet night. Yesterday was the third anniversary of my wife's death to cancer. Each day that passes it becomes slightly easier to accept. I still have bad days but my memories no longer pull me down into that bottomless black hole of despair. 

 Our over half century together inevitably provides an endless collection of unique memories. Some good but none so bad I can no longer let them go. Moments pop up quite involuntarily and inexplicably. I constantly relive some moments. Mostly leading up to the time of her death. As if hoping for a different outcome. Could I have saved her? Had I been more firm. In getting the medical help she so desperately needed. But determinedly denied herself.

 Those who told me that time would eventually heal the wounds of my loss were correct. It just took much longer than I had imagined. It took this long for me to accept a picture of her. One where she was happy. Albeit taken over 20 years ago. It sounds odd but I never saw how we were both aging. Not until I looked back through the few pictures. She hated having her picture taken. So I must rely on those taken by rare visitors. 

I am not lonely. I have always been a loner, with my constant partner. I feel no need whatsoever of a new partner. Certainly not an intimate one. I find myself laughing at the mere thought of it. The last time I was looking for a partner I caught a beautiful, blonde teenager. It was love at first sight. At 78, however, I must seek one. Who more closely resembles my great grandmother.

 In retrospect, I enjoyed a lifetime of sharing all our ups and downs. There were things I would give anything to change now but cannot. So must suffer the lingering guilt of failing to be perfect under sometimes very difficult circumstances. Neither of us was perfect. We were simply human. The fragile products of our own upbringing. Damaged goods. As are most human beings. 

 Tread softly around those you hold most dear. Once carved indelibly into your timeline together. Nothing can [ever] be undone. 

 8.00 Enough waffling. Time for a walk in the sunshine.

 8.40 Back from a deliberately brisk walk to the lanes. The doctor has asked for more blood pressure readings. I wanted to capture the result of exercise. Since my recent dizziness followed lots of exercise. I was concerned that my BP had dropped too far as a result of my medication. The lowest reading followed five minutes of sitting quietly: 96/75 at 75bpm. I'll try again after half an hour of sitting at the computer. Lowest reading after 40 minutes: 98/76 pulse 75. My pulse is usually much slower. 

 

 ~o~

3 Apr 2025

3.04.2025 62km.

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  Thursday 3rd 36F/2.2C. Another sunny day. Reaching almost 17C/62F mid afternoon.

 Up at 5.30 after another difficult night. Was I really awake for hours? Or only dreaming I was awake?

 Happy Birthday Dave! 

 7.10 A walk. 

 8.10 46F/8C. Back again. I was treated to several sunrises over local obstructions. As I walked the wrong way down the road. Then up to the forest by the steep track. Where I saw at least four bucks with antlers grazing under the beech trees. They were about 200 meters away. 

 What I hadn't spotted was a single deer in the corner of the field. Just beyond the boundary hedge. It glared intensely at me for a while before dashing away down the edge of the forest. The grazing deer sensed something and stared. Before they too sprinted way into the forest. 

 I descended towards home via the spray tracks. A cold, quiet morning with no wind. It needed my hands in my pockets for most of my walk. Though the local group of turbines were all turning briskly again. 

 It should be a perfect day for another ride. Or would that be foolish? Many of my rides head north. Which raises a serious issue. The railway building work crosses most of my familiar routes. With no obvious detours. I just did a search and now have a timetable for road closures. I think I can reach several of my charity shop goals by going further west. I am not quite sure why I continue to visit charity shops. Just habit I suppose. I no longer need any more display cabinets. There is nowhere sensible left to put them. 

 2.20 61F/16C. Back from a 62km ride. Four charity shops and a load of groceries to show for it. I stayed just south of the railway work. Tensioning the saddle did not solve the discomfort problem. I wore another pair of bibs. [padded cycle shorts with soft braces]

 17.15 I opened the greenhouse door before I had a 40 minute nap. It was 115F/46C out there. Only 66F/19C in the room. The temperature in the room has now reached 72.5F/22.5C. While the kitchen has risen to 75F/24C. The greenhouse has only dropped to 100F/38C. I had better bring in the towels. Which I hung on the outside clothes airer before leaving.

 Dinner was poached eggs on toast. I caught up with the washing up backlog first.

 I rang my brother to wish him a happy birthday. We were reminiscing about motorbikes in our teens.


 ~o~

2 Apr 2025

2.04.2025 Why is everything fuzzy?

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  Wednesday 2nd 40F/4.4C. Another sunny day is promised. Close to 50F/10C mid-afternoon. Light winds. 

 Up at 6am after a bad night. I was awake for hours. No idea why. I got up eventually to have a drink of apple juice. I didn't dare sit on the computer with black coffee.

 I am expected at my friend's place this morning. With physio afterwards I will have to go a bit earlier than usual. I don't feel any ill effects from yesterday's marathon ride. Three tablets short of a set when I sorted out my heart medication. I'll have to visit the pharmacy. 

 7.20 Going for a short walk top check my fitness..

 The blinding sun was over the horizon. The birds were typically noisy. With only a chilly NE breeze spoiling the fun. I looped around the neighbours' drives. No ill effects from yesterday. Time for a shower.

 8.15 Leaving.  

 12.00 Returned from my visit. It was very pleasant wandering outside in his extensive grounds.

 13.00 Leaving for physio. The car keep hiccuping!

 15.30 Back from physio. Where I became rather dizzy towards the end. My vision became all fuzzy and sparkly. Probably pushing myself too hard. Perhaps my blood pressure has dropped too low and my medications need adjusting. I'll make an appointment for a chat with the doctor. 

 15.45 Time for a nap. I opened the greenhouse door. It is 118F/48C out there! It reached only a modest 68F/20C in the room.

 Dinner was yet another fry-up. Fried chicken, brown mushrooms, tweggs and cherry tomatoes.

 

  ~o~